Say Nice Things to Yourself

Remember when your mother taught you “if you don’t have something nice to say then don’t say anything at all”? As an adult, I have realized that we say the meanest of things to ourselves. The person we should lova1c8455afb3d5542cff03d053c9e788ae the most in the world, we berate, ridicule, and mentally/verbally abuse the most… Ourselves!

I learned that I did this to myself about 9 years ago when I started reading Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life” where she blatently tells her readers that they are abusing themselves with the things we say and think about ourselves. I truly had a hate/hate relationship with myself for most of my life and it was affecting what good and bad things happen in my life. If I couldn’t love myself and praise myself then how could someone else love me? How could the universe provide for me when I couldn’t provide one positive thought for myself? It didn’t and I was suffering more then I ever thought I would in my life.

How could I recover from the years of abuse that I gave myself? I started by reciting affirmations to myself. For those of you who do not know what affirmations are, they are encouraging words that you say to yours
elf over and over, everyday! I started off with “I am loving and loveable” and worked my life around things that I wanted to happen in my life. Over the years, things would happen and I would get away from my affirmations…. then something bad would happen and I would snap back into the reality of how powerful these affirmations are to my well being.

That has recently happened to me, life got ahead of me and I became laxed in my affirmations. As a result, my life became overwhelming, disoriented and began a downward spiral. I found myself yelling at myself for the lack of money coming in, being lazy, being fat and being ugly. That is not how I would let someone else treat me so why was I treating myself like this?

It is easy to fall back into bad habits but it is rewarding to push past those bad habits and start now traditions…. even if it means starting them over again! So the past week, I got a binder out of the school supply cabinet, filled it with lined paper and began writing out affirmations to help me out of my current financial crisis. Everyday, I write out an affirmation that positively affirms that money flows into my life to pay my bills and provide what my family needs. Mind you, affirmations coexist with hard work. The money, love etc that you seek will not just fall into your lap. You still need to map out a plan on how you can get to your goals.

As a server (waitress), my money is reliant on what tips that I make so those affirmations help to bring me higher tips to provide for my family. I saw this happen this past week where I was able to stay later then originally expected and make more money then I had for a goal for the day. If you believe then it will happen, just keep telling yourself those positive affirmations every single day and if you have a negative thought then follow it up with 10 positive thoughts!!

Here is my current list of financial affirmations that I am working with:

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Let’s start a Fabulous Friday trend

It’s Friday and for most people the best day of the week, for myself it’s the start of a busy work weekend but…. not this weekend!! I am jumping for joy that this weekend I only work lunch today and lunch Sunday which also means I get to watch the Super Bowl!!! (I just want to see the Patriots lose!) With an exciting weekend ahead, I think we should all start trending #fabulousfriday and let the world know something positive you have going on for your weekend!

My #fabulousfriday trending idea is really an inspiration from all the positivity work that I have been focusing on the past couple of weeks now. Every morning, instead of listening to music or djs, my daughter and I have been listening to audio books to enhance the positivity in our lives. (Much to my daughter’s unhappiness because she loves and relates to music) 

Part of my decision to turn off the radio and listen to audiobooks to help my daughter learn to love herself now at almost 10 and avoid the pains I have gone through for 35 years to learn to love myself as an adult. I know the quote “misery loves company” applies to my daughter and I because she has fed off of my bad moods lately. If you ask my daughter how she is, she will respond with something negative, like she is tired (her fav) or she is bored or she doesn’t feel good. So it’s time to not only change myself but change how my daughter perceives herself and her life.

This week has been The Secret which I have listened to 100s of times over the past year and each time something different sinks in. Listening to The Secret this week has been focusing on gratitude and being grateful for the small things in my life that otherwise I take advantage of every other day. I want to find at least one thing, everyday, to be grateful for and share it with the world so that the Universe knows that I am not taking it for granted and love everything and everyone in my life.

Here is to a #fabulousfriday and amazing weekend for myself and everyone of you! Go to whatever social media is your favorite and tell the world about your #fabulousfriday